Dating a man who has been sexually abused
An Important Note: I'll be using female pronouns here in order to respond directly to your question, but my answers would apply to a male partner who's been sexually abused as well.Every person’s experience with sexual abuse is different, and no two recovery processes look the same.Tell her you’re open to hearing any parts of her story that she feels comfortable telling you. You don’t want to put her on the spot or pepper her with questions, but let her know you care and want to be there for her in any way that feels good for her.
You don’t want to make any assumptions about her experiences or needs.
Some women feel like they need to keep their partners sexually satisfied or risk losing them, so they push themselves out of their comfort zones.
Other people will start feeling pressure if a certain amount of time has gone by without having sex.
This might feel like overkill at times, but it's a great way to build up feelings of trust and safety.
Talk to her about any difficulties she may have with saying “yes” or “no” to you, and try to come up with a plan for making sure she can be honest about her desires.
You sound like a sensitive person who wouldn’t want to put pressure on your girlfriend to do anything she doesn’t want to do.