Dating with inflammatory bowel disease
Once I was admitted, I called my then-boyfriend to let him know the news. He couldn’t make the three-hour drive to see me because gas prices were too expensive. I was very excited for our first date, but there was just one hitch: A few hours before we were supposed to meet for dinner, I ended up experiencing a bout of terrible pain that left me bent over on the toilet.Since I’d only just met him — and we’d only spoken for a few hours — I hadn’t told him about my Crohn’s disease.For months, he had talked about our future together and about his love for me.But when I ended up in the hospital after a weeks-long bout of excruciating abdominal pain, high fevers, and fatigue, he was nowhere to be seen.Luckily, after my diagnosis, I went exactly three years without any hospitalizations or visits to the emergency room.Then, over the Fourth of July weekend in 2008, when I was visiting family in Chicago, I was hospitalized with an abscess the size of a tennis ball in my small intestine. Here we go again.” As I stared out of the hospital window with my mom, watching the fireworks burst across the sky, I knew, once again, that this guy wasn’t going to cut it. RELATED: 5 Ways to Make Dating Easier When You Have Crohn’s Disease Several months went by, and I met a guy at a work event who asked for my number.
I would casually explain to my dates that I had Crohn’s disease, but I’d never let them know how it impacted my day-to-day life. I figured that if I didn’t make my disease out to be a big deal, others wouldn’t think it was, either.
Medically Reviewed by Kareem Sassi, MDI’ll never forget how lonely I felt after my Crohn’s disease diagnosis.