How to tell your kids you are dating after divorce
(Life Wire) -- After his 10-year marriage ended in 2004, New Yorker Phil Lee, 42, found himself tagged with the modern-day scarlet letter: "D" -- divorced.He wondered how that (not to mention his three children, ages 19, 11 and 9) would affect his future dating life.It's in both of your interests to know right away if this is a deal-breaker. "If I meet somebody, the first things that I talk about are my children and my previous wife.If you don't do that, you come across as being dishonest." But take it more slowly when it comes to telling the kids."I suspected that this man wasn't over his marriage, which made sense -- after all, he wasn't even divorced yet," she says.• More personal information, such as why the marriage failed and the nature of your relationship with your ex, should be saved for a later date when the two of you are more comfortable with each other.A Dutch study this year showed that reduces one's chances of having a new, successful relationship -- slightly more for women than for men. It's no wonder newly dating divorcees may be hesitant to mention the details.
If your partner is angry, apologize and work to win back that trust.
Before making introductions, tell your kids about the person you're dating, and why they'll like him or her.