Ice breaker questions when dating
), or a weekend day-drinking with friends,” Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman, tells Bustle.
However, you can also ask them not to choose an answer like “errands.” “Overall, it’s a fun way to peek into your date’s day-to-day lifestyle,” Edwards says.
Although you and the person have likely been messaging back-and-forth for a while — and have maybe even had a phone call or two — you still need to see if your conversation flows in person. Varsha Mathur, dating and relationship coach at Knowing Luxe Coaching, says to start with a light topic.
“Be interested in them and ask questions about the light-hearted stuff, such as how they got into the city or where they found parking,” Mathur tells Bustle.
And sometimes, a great precursor to any question is simply to admit that you’re over surface-level conversation and really want to learn what makes this person tick.
So, might they mind your asking some untraditional questions, and speaking more authentically? Do you find that it can be a shortcut to warm them up?
“It’s also a good way to get a conversation going, because it lends itself to a lot of follow-up questions about pet names, breeds, and even showing photos.” He adds that it’s also a great way to see if any pet issues are potential deal-breakers for you, such as you being allergic to cats or that you can’t date someone who doesn’t like animals.
“Remembering a fun time and sharing that with a new person is a great way to learn insight about a date,” says."Believe it or not, some singles show up on dates who suffer a temporary loss in memory, and don’t remember their date’s name or what they look like.” She says that this can be embarrassing and will signal that you’re either a serial dater or one who doesn’t care much about the date you’re going on.